Clean plate club

Hello, lovely ladies and welcome to the podcast.

So as you know, I'm batch recording some of these podcasts so that I can provide you with really useful value whilst I am off with the boys or whilst I am in America at my lovely coaches mastermind so that I can really learn how to make things simpler, clearer, and more doable for you, be even more generous with my marketing and with my current clients, meaning that I will make sure that they're getting even more than they thought that they were coming in for.

So it's so fun to be able to do that for myself, for my business and to set a role model to my children that yes, mommy is an amazing mom and she is able to be a badass business owner too.

So, so fun to be able to have this amazing impact in the world. And thank you so much for listening and supporting me through this. Okay. So today we are talking about the clean plate club.

So are you in the clean plate club? What does this mean? So this is when you eat everything that you've put on your plate, even when you've eaten to enough.

So some of the reasons why people are part of this clean plate club is because they think, oh, I need to finish what's on my plate. This is often something that has been drummed into us from childhood. I know my mom used to say to me all the time, you need to finish what's on your plate because there are some children across the world who don't have the food.

So you need to be grateful for the food that you do have. So that means you can't waste it. And as a child, I didn't know. I just thought, okay. That's what mommy's saying. So that's correct. So I didn't think that there was any other way. I didn't think that I could do anything else. I just thought I have to finish what's on my plate.

And interestingly, as a child, my parents put the food on my plate. So they didn't know how hungry I was really. Right. Yeah. They could gauge generally like how much I tend to eat and how much they think that I needed. And of course, parents are amazing at that, but they didn't know my hunger signals. Right.

So I remember as a child, I used to take ages to eat. My mom talked about a story when I was a child and I used to have, chapati so roughly in my mouth for like over an hour, because I'd just be chewing and chewing and chewing and chewing. And, she used to be like, come on, you're not getting up until finish what's on your plate.

So as I was growing up, that was what I believed. Right. I have to finish what's on my plate for my mom to be. accepting of me now. I'm not saying she didn't accept me if I didn't eat. Of course not, but that's what my child brain grew up with. Right. I need to finish what's on my plate so that mommy will be, proud of me so that mommy won't be cross at me.

Right? So, so many of us have this conditioning growing up. we need to finish what's on our plate and our parents do it with so much love and affection because obviously they just want us to eat and they just want us to be, growing up with nutritious food, they just want us to be healthy.

So they're not doing it from a bad place. They're just doing it because that's what they knew. And that's what they thought would keep us alive really. Right. So I'm not saying this in a way that our parents did something wrong. Not at. They did what they thought was best. But we now, as adults get to question that conditioning, we get to question whether that's really still true for us.

Do I need to still finish what's on my plate. Right. But what are the reasons why you may be thinking that I need to finish what's on my plate. Some of the things that come up for my clients are I can't waste. It costs a lot of money. I went to a lot of effort to make it, or someone else went to a lot of effort to make it.

I paid for it. It took a lot of time to make it would be rude if I didn't finish it. So often our minds think in an all or nothing way, they often think that you either eat it now. Otherwise it will be wasted, but what I want you to think about is what are all those options in between? Right. If there were three other options that weren't in the all or nothing, that weren't in the black or white, what are the three shades of gray in between?

What could they be? So when I asked my brain, my brain came up with, I could eat to enough and give the rest to my husband or the children. I could put it away for later. I could freeze it. I could take it away, but instantly my brain says this shouldn't be the case.

Why I shouldn't do that. And of course it does that because remember it wants me to eat the food, that primitive brain of mine, the sole reason why it is there is to ensure my survival. And remember it wants me to seek pleasure, avoid pain and stay how I am. Right. So of course, it's going to want me to eat that extra food because it thinks that when I'm eating that extra food, then it will ensure my survival.

of course it's gonna do that. It's always gonna do that, but that's when you get to calm down that primitive brain. So when your primitive brain says, yeah, but you have to eat the food because that's when you can. Yeah. But the, yeah, but , I do this a lot in my coaching and. I termed it as you can year, but the year, but it's so fun.

Because when your brain says, yeah, but you need to eat it because you paid a lot of money for this and you'd be wasting money when your brain says yeah. But it costs a lot of money when your brain says yeah. But I went to a lot of effort to make it when your brain says yeah. But it would be rude to leave this food behind that's when you can.

Yeah. But the, yeah, but . You can say, yeah, I get it. That you think that you know, we are gonna be wasting it, but we're not wasting it because you may say yeah. But I understand that you is gonna threaten our survival, but you know what? We are safe. We're. I understand you think that when you're finishing your plate, that you are making your parents proud, but currently your parents aren't even here and it's okay.

They just want you to be healthy. So currently with you overeating, that's making you less healthy than actually more healthy, right? You just wanna eat in a way that is gonna be serving your body. I often tell my brain, these. So I, yeah, but the, yeah, but , this is why I literally love my job. Like I get to create these concepts that are so fun and so relatable and also so profound, right.

This one tool has helped so many of my clients decide what they want to believe in an intentional way, rather than just believe what their primitive brain offers them. Right? So the first reason for being in the clean plate club is I need to finish what's on my plate. So the second reason. was that the brain wants to eat more than the body actually needs.

And if you think about it, this is because of that primitive brain, right? It wants us to seek pleasure, avoid pain and stay as we are. So your brain will always tell you to put more on your plate. It'll always tell you that you'll miss out later. You only eat once or twice a day. You'll be hungry later and hunger is bad.

So your brain will always offer these thoughts because it wants to keep you safe. It wants to ensure your survival and that primitive part of your brain is going to be activated at that time. So I want you to remember that your brain will always want to eat more than your body actually needs. And that is a survival mechanism that is innately in us to get us, to seek pleasure, avoid pain as day as we are.

And if you think about it, it's very pleasurable to eat more. Your brain thinks it's painful to say no to food because you have to feel urges and some emotions, and it gets you to stay as you are, because currently this is just the way you've always been doing it. Right? So at that moment, I want you to answer back to your brain.

Don't just take everything that your brain says as the truth. The brain is often really ridiculous telling you that you're a failure. You'll never succeed at this and that, this is the end of the. But is this really useful for you? Your brain is always going to offer you thoughts that aren't gonna be helpful.

So you get to decide then whether that's something that you want to believe or not. And if it isn't useful, then you could ask yourself, how could I interpret this in a way that is useful? You don't have to. do this, with all of your thinking, because there's gonna be so many thoughts that come up.

Right. For example, for me often my brain offers me thoughts about not being a good mom because in my head being a good mom is doing X, Y, and Z. Keeping them acting, making it fun for them, spending time with them, etc. But for me, it was really quite tough because I put a lot of pressure on myself to do so many things with them the whole time for success as a good mom.

So I got to question those thoughts. I got to question those assumptions that I put on myself. That if you only are a good mom when you do X, Y, and Z. So it's the same thing with weight loss. If your brain is telling you, you're only succeeding at weight loss. If you're doing X, Y, and Z often, it's you putting these expectations on yourself that are just unrealistic and just not helpful for you?

So if your brain is wanting more food than your body needs, I want you to normalize that for yourself. Of course, it's doing that. It's just in trying to ensure your survival. It's not trying to be mean to you. It's not trying to make things more difficult. It's literally just trying to ensure your survival.

And this is the only way it knows how right.

To kind of round things up with the clean plate club - so many of my clients go through this. So if you are going through this, I just wanted to normalize it for you. This is very normal and there's nothing wrong with you. Nothing has gone wrong. You are not broken. You are not the only one in the world who is suffering with this.

There are so many of us who go through. I am your coach and I've been doing this for a long time and I still go through this. Sometimes I notice that I am still wanting to clean my plate, but I am testing myself. Like I sometimes say to myself, okay, what would it be like for me to leave? two bites behind it?

Doesn't have to be something where you are like, literally halving the amount of food on your plate. You could just start off with. Okay. What if I was to leave one bite? then you want to notice what are the thoughts that are coming up when you do do that? Because these are the thoughts you want to work through.

You may think, oh, I'm depriving myself. You may think this is restrictive. You may think, it means that I have to keep eating less and less. This is definitely not the case because you want to identify what are these thoughts so that you can deal with them? Because my friends, they are only thought.

They are not set in stone. This isn't the truth. These are the things that you wanna question on your journey so that you can actually remove these thought blocks from your mind and come up with a way to, yeah, but the year, but right, come up with a way to respond to these thoughts. When they come up, they will come up for you for the whole of your life.

Even after coaching. So the aim isn't to get rid of these thoughts, the aim is to respond to them in a way that is sustainable and doable for you. The aim is to anticipate that these thoughts are gonna come to normalize them, being there to understand that your brain is only trying to protect you and to then respond to them in a way that feels very loving for you in a way that's gonna help you achieve that goal.

So the next time you notice that you want to clean up your plate. Yeah. You could leave a bite behind. What else could you do? You could maybe just anticipate in your head beforehand, that these are the times where I tend to overeat. These are the times where I tend to clean up my plate. Is it when you're at a wedding and other people are watching, is it when you're at a restaurant and you don't want to leave the food because you've paid for it?

Is it that when you're on date night, you tend to overreach a little bit because you want to prolong the experience with your partner. when are those situations for you? And then you want to create a particular protocol for yourself for those, moments. So we often do, coaching on this clean play club and it often goes really deep, often goes back to childhood where we have been taught these things.

And so in the group coaching program, we really help unravel some of these things. And yes, on the podcast, you can unravel a lot for yourself, but if you feel that you need a little bit more help with this, or if you've been listening to the podcast for a long time, and you're not quite getting the results that you want yet, this is the time to really make a commitment to yourself.

So you can go to my website, www.amrutucoaching.com/group to find out information about the next group coaching program, which is starting in November. And we will be enrolling in October. So you can go and read up about it. You can go and decide whether this is gonna be a good fit for you because in October I'm gonna be doing a webinar and then I'm gonna be opening up, consultations for about a week, maybe just over a week.

And if you are thinking about it, I want you to really make a decision decide that you want to invest in yourself or that you are not wanting to invest in yourself, but either way make a decision for yourself. Because if you are thinking, this is really something that I want to do, then you want to identify what are the obstacles that are coming up for you and overcome them ahead of time so that you are ready to go in October when we are ready to enroll so that you can actually make this a reality for you so that you can actually deal with this overeating that has been with you, that has been holding you back for so, so long.

So, if that is for you, then go and join the wait list for the November group coaching program.

So you can do that by going to www.amruticoaching.com/group. Okay, lovely ladies. I will see you next week. Bye bye.